What To Do When Parents Won’t Let You Visit Their New Baby…

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I was on the train the other day, and I was sat behind a group of young women who were discussing one of their sister in laws, and how she'd recently had a baby. The girl leading the conversation was very put out that she'd not been able to visit to see the baby yet (a week after it had been born), and that her mother in law was devastated to have only been allowed to see the baby twice. They were very focused on the fact that apparently she'd had an straightforward birth, and unanimous in saying that when they had a baby they would be wanting everyone to see it. The phrase no-one has a right to stop people ...

Rediscovering ‘Me’ Post Baby and Being Braver

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I remember one of the things I wanted to achieve 2 years ago was to be more present in photos, both on the blog and off it. I think I did really well through pregnancy, but since having Ben nearly a year ago now, I've definitely fallen back into obscurity. I looked back over my Instagram feed the other day and realised there were barely any photos of me, just of the boys. That first year after you have a baby is such a difficult one for a woman and I think my confidence really took a knock. It's understandable - your body emerges from pregnancy looking so different than it did before. Even aside from the body hangups, you're left ...

To Myself As A First Time Mum

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Becoming a parent was the most life changing event in my life. It quite literally turned my life upside down - I'd always considered myself to be quite a selfish person, and yet suddenly I had this little being, entirely dependent on me, who I was desperate to do the best for. It's a really scary time. It's crammed to the brim with emotions, and you're trying to learn things you've never done before with next to nothing in the way of an instruction manual. There is so much that I'd want to tell myself as a first time parent...   Trust Your Instincts As a first time mum, I scoffed at the phrase 'mother's intuition'. I'd never done this before, how could ...

From One To Two Is Easy, They Said…

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I have to admit that I was nervous about the jump from one to two children. If you're familiar with my blog, you'll know that Max, my first son, is quite a demanding child who does need a lot of attention, so I worried a lot about having to split my attention in two. But not to worry, everyone said - the jump from one to two is the easiest! From none to one is hard - your life is completely turned upside down and you're learning everything from scratch. From 2 to 3 is hard - suddenly the parent to child ratio is tipped in favour of the kids and chaos ensues. But 1 to 2? You'll be fine! 7 ...

Why Every Family Should Have A Newborn Photoshoot

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One of the things that I was determined to do when our second baby came along was a newborn photo shoot. We didn't do one with Max, and although I treasure the photos from those early days, with my love of photography, I wish we'd managed to arrange a professional to visit us to capture something more special than the sleep deprived shots we took ourselves. I didn't just want a styled photoshoot of our newborn though, I wanted photos of all of us, as a new family. I did wonder whether I was slightly mad to invite a photographer into our home, only a week after giving birth. I'd still probably look about 5 months pregnant, the sleep deprivation would ...

Lost in Motherhood

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I was walking past a mirror the other day and I caught a brief glimpse of my reflection and couldn't help but look back to have a proper look. These days I don't seem to get time to put on makeup, or do my hair, so I wanted to check that I didn't look too much of a state. But I looked back and did an almost comical double take - I didn't recognise the person staring back at me. She didn't look a state - hair was brushed, if not styled, she didn't have lipstick on her teeth - but it wasn't the image I have of myself in my head. She looked more tired, more drab, more frumpy, ...

7 Must Haves for Breastfeeding Mums

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Breastfeeding is really hard in the early days, so anything that makes that journey a little bit easier is very welcome in my book. These are 7 of the most useful things I've come across, so whether you're a breastfeeding mum, or intending to breastfeed, I hope they'll be useful for you.   Lansinoh HPA Lanolin In the early days breastfeeding is so difficult and so often painful. It's difficult to get the latch right, and just one bad latch can cause a lot of damage to your sensitive nipples. Add in something like tongue tie, and you can be experiencing an awful lot of soreness. Lansinoh HPA Lanolin is what I credit with getting me through breastfeeding the first time around, and ...

World Breastfeeding Week: A Thank You to My Breastfeeding Supporters

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There's no denying that breastfeeding is hard work. Especially in those early days - it's often a painful, emotionally draining, and tiring experience. I felt that  I was much better prepared second time around - I knew that it might be painful and difficult at first, and I'd promised myself that I wouldn't put so much pressure on myself to breastfeed, or worry about weight gain. But there's something primal that kicks in about the need to feed your baby, and despite my promises, all those hormones started up again and it was exactly the same emotional rollercoaster as I'd ridden before. Having now breastfed two children, I think it's actually one of the hardest things I've done as a ...

My hopes for motherhood second time around

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With just 4 weeks to go now until my due date, I'm very conscious that our new arrival will finally be arriving very soon! And that's got me thinking a lot about what I want to do differently this time around. I found the adjustment to being a mum very difficult to deal with. No-one can prepare you for that rush of love that just overwhelms you, but also the intense worry, guilt, and anxiety that accompanies it. As a first time mum, you are so concerned with 'getting it right', and it takes some time for the realisation to sink in that there is no 'right', just what's right for you and your baby. Although I don't think there are many ...

Returning to the Baby Stage

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I've heard it said that everyone has a stage of parenting they're best suited to. For some it's the baby years, for some the toddler years, and for some very brave people, it's the teenage years. I'm not a baby person. It's something I don't voice often, being a parenting blogger, but I've never been overly maternal, and I really struggled with the first year of motherhood. The lack of interaction in the early days I found really difficult to deal with, and the constant instruction from health visitors to 'play' with your baby I have to admit that I found baffling. When all you can do is put them on a playmat and wave things in front of them, there's ...