Five Years of Marriage

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Five years ago today I was getting ready to marry the love of my life. It seems crazy to think we’ve hit the five year anniversary mark – it seems like it happened just the other week, and yet it seems like ages ago – so much has changed in our lives since then.

John and I met in school and went out for two years before breaking up during our A-Levels and losing touch as we went off to university. So I count it as one of life’s fateful moments when our eyes met across a station platform one morning – we got chatting and quickly it was like we picked up exactly where we’d left things.

 

Aperol Spritz in Italy

 

People say that marriage changes your relationship. I don’t believe that’s true. We had been a couple for six years before getting married, not counting the two years we’d been together previously, so we know and understand each other intrinsically. We are the same people that we were before, our love for each other is still as strong. But there is perhaps more of a sense of being a team – the feeling that together you can take on anything.

 

First dance

First dance

 

Of course, having a baby changes your relationship hugely. I’d be lying if I said that there haven’t been difficult moments between us when we first had Max. We’ve been tired, and angry, and disagreed on things. And there’s been a lot of forgiveness and compromise over the past couple of years. But becoming parents and finding our way together through that journey has strengthened that sense of ‘team’ even more. Max has brought more joy into our lives than I ever thought possible and those memories of us as a family are feelings that I’ll treasure.

But my absolute highlight of our last five years has been watching John become a father. He’s one of the kindest and most caring people I’ve ever met, so I always knew that he’d be great, but seeing him with Max makes my heart melt over and over again. Max worships him and wants to be just like him – “if Daddy’s mowing the lawn, I’ll get my toy lawnmower and mow too!”

 

Legoland - Max and John on the Balloon ride

 

Five years feels like our first ‘significant’ anniversary – apparently I should be giving a wooden gift in celebration. But I don’t really subscribe to those traditions, and instead I’ve gone with something more off the cuff – a set of two little china mice from the lovely Lizzie at Marmalade Pie. We had little sugar mice as our wedding favours, and despite keeping two aside, I don’t have high hopes for their longevity! So these are a lovely, more permanent, momento. We’re also celebrating with a night away in our favourite ever hotel – where we got engaged, and where we celebrated our honeymoon. A little bit of luxury – but five years is worth celebrating!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on relationships and anniversaries – do you do anything special to celebrate? What do you think it is that makes a relationship work?

16 Comments
  • Elsie Pop
    June 5, 2016

    5 years has flown! I’m looking forward to celebrating ours next month – that was such an amazing summer of weddings and it feels like yesterday! Why does 5 years sound so much longer than 4? xx

    • Katy | Hot Pink Wellingtons
      June 11, 2016

      It’s weird, isn’t it – 5 years seems like ages all of a sudden! I think that was one of my favourite summers, so many lovely things happened! Happy anniversary for next month! 🙂

  • Amy
    June 5, 2016

    Congratulations Katy and John! 5 years is a good milestone to celebrate- so well done for treating yourselves! It’s our 10 year wedding anniversary in July and I can’t believe that it’s been that long. We just celebrated with a trip to Barcelona- though that may have just been an excuse to spoil ourselves! We’ve never gone in for the yearly gift thing either, though normally mark the occasion with a meal or something food related! Enjoy your special night away. You deserve it xxx

    • Katy | Hot Pink Wellingtons
      June 11, 2016

      Thanks Amy – I can’t believe it’s been 10 years, that’s crazy! Honestly it feels like just the other day, even though there’s been so many huge life changes! I loved seeing your Barcelona pictures – looks like you both had a lovely time!

  • Laura - dear bear and beany
    June 5, 2016

    Congratulations! I agree with you that our love didn’t change when we got married, we can a team. I felt like we could take on anything, knowing we always had each other by our sides. I felt more secure in my own skin. Have a fantastic time X

    • Katy | Hot Pink Wellingtons
      June 11, 2016

      Thanks Laura – it’s definitely that sense of team that sums it all up for me. But then I guess that’s what marriage is all about!

  • Mrs T
    June 5, 2016

    what a lovely post happy 5 years!! xx

  • Squished blueberries
    June 6, 2016

    Ahh lovely post! Congratulations on 5 years! I agree, I don’t thnk marriage has changed our relationship at all, kids are another thing altogether though! If you can get through that you can get through anything 😉 xx

  • Lizzie Woodman
    June 9, 2016

    Lovely post Katy! Your wedding dress was stunning. Congratulations on your anniversary and thank you for mentioning my little mice – I’m thrilled you love them! x

    • Katy | Hot Pink Wellingtons
      June 11, 2016

      Thanks so much Lizzie – I meant to send a thank you before we left but it was all a bit hectic in the run up to leaving! They’re so beautiful, I love them! Went down well with the husband too 🙂

  • mummyofboygirltwins
    June 12, 2016

    Gorgeous and your wedding photographs are amazing 🙂 Lovely post xx

  • Natalie @memeandharri
    June 13, 2016

    Gorgeous post Katy and I love your story of how you found each again – definitely meant to be. I felt more secure when I got married – i love our little team which started as two but has now grown to 4. xxx

    • Katy | Hot Pink Wellingtons
      June 16, 2016

      Thanks Natalie! I always said I don’t believe in fate, but it’s such a random meetup that I think someone was smiling on us that day 🙂

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