For about 2 years now, Max has been a very fussy eater. Despite eating anything and everything when he started weaning, once he turned two, he became very picky, and his diet became more and more restricted to breaded chicken, fish fingers, chips, and the occasional bolognese. Any kind of vegetable was out, and we couldnât persuade him to try new things. Heâd even go through phases where he wouldnât even eat freezer food, and only toast and butter would do. Heâd even start picking out the cheese from his cheese sandwich (the only sandwich of choice), declaring, “I not like diss”. Oh, how many times Iâve heard that sentence over the years! I would read posts from other parents who would say how guilty they felt about dishing up their child freezer food a couple of days a week, and Iâd feel absolutely awful, because thatâs pretty much all Max ate.
All the advice you read about fussy eating says to take a laid back approach, to just keep serving up options and not making a big deal about it, which is what we did. Youâre advised not go down the route of ‘if you eat your vegetables you can have dessertâ as apparently that can create negative food associations that your child will carry with them. But it gets very disheartening two years down the line, when youâre still serving up portions of peas, just to throw them in the bin at the end of the meal. And the most frustrating thing? At nursery, he eats vegetables without any issues! To be honest, thatâs the one thing thatâs allowed me to be more relaxed about it all, knowing that at least he has two days at nursery where heâll get some goodness into him - that, and the fact that he does like fruit.
But this last week weâve turned a real corner. A couple of weeks ago now, I decided enough was enough, and that it was better to build bad food associations than to never eat any vegetables at all, so I insisted that unless Max tried two spoonfuls of peas, he wasnât allowed any dessert. For two weeks he held out, deciding that heâd rather not try them and miss out on dessert. But he gets his stubbornness from me, and I stayed strong on this one, and this week I watched in amazement as he tentatively raised a spoonful of peas to his mouth and ate them. My jaw just about dropped to the floor when he declared them to be “deninish” (delicious!). He had his two spoonfuls and that was enough to get his jelly, so he didnât have any more that day, but I was over the moon. Ok, itâs two spoonfuls, and yes, they were smothered in ketchup, but it really was one of those small victories that feel huge!
I wasnât sure if it would be a one off, but we persisted throughout the week with the same approach and it continued to work. Carrots, sweetcorn, and more peas were all eaten, without complaint - and I gradually I noticed that he was starting to eat more and more of what was served up.
Iâm still not pushy about him finishing a portion, but I do think he needed that push to try things at home - we were stuck in a rut and his eating was getting worse and worse. Sometimes I think you need to go with what you feel is the right thing for you and your family, regardless of what the current thinking or advice looks like. I just hope this new approach to food continues for us!
January 21, 2018
Yay to the peas! I really hope that he has turned a corner now and that he decides vegetables are the best from now on!! Well done you x #TheOrdinaryMoments
January 21, 2018
Well done for staying strong - fab news! My little one is nearly two and has just started becoming a little bit fussy and Iâm nervous it is going to get worse, fingers crossed itâs just a ‘stageâ! #theordinarymoments
January 22, 2018
I hope it does turn out to be just a stage for you - I think all children go through ups and downs, ours has just been a very long stage!
January 21, 2018
Oh this is great news! Well done for sticking it out - hopefully now heâll continue to try new things. Such a good move forward x
January 22, 2018
Thanks so much Donna, I really hope now heâs tried a few things and liked them that heâll be a bit braver!
January 22, 2018
This great news Katy, as a mum of a fussy eater I know what a big step this is. Holly ate chicken casserole and rice this weekend with no problem x
January 22, 2018
Oh thatâs brilliant, well done Holly! Max has last week declared he likes rice too, although so far hasnât branched beyond breaded chicken with it, but itâs still progress! Maybe itâs just their age?
January 22, 2018
That is amazing Iâve had moments like this with my daughter and fussy eating and I really wanted to do a happy dance. We worry so much when they are not eating all their veg and wanting beige all the time donât we?
January 22, 2018
I think you canât help it when the ‘phaseâ seems to be going on and on - you worry it will be forever. And these kids can be so stubborn!
January 22, 2018
Fussy eater here too, mine apparently only eats from the beige food group, ð¤¦ð¼ââï¸. I have stressed and fought him (my own worst enemy sometimes) compromised that all he has to do is try his new food. He is stubborn as hell, he would sooner go without anything at all because he doesnât want to try anything.
January 22, 2018
I totally get the stubbornness, my son is exactly the same. He doesnât normally respond to bribery of any sort, as if he doesnât want to do it, a reward just isnât good enough. I really hope things improve for you guys too - hang in there!
January 23, 2018
Gosh we are trying, so hard thou isnât it.
January 22, 2018
“Max likes hams” - another culinary milestone! ð
January 24, 2018
Itâs great that heâs eating his greens and getting the nutrition he needs. My girls love their veggies and itâs a good job too as their Dad likes to put them with everything. #theordinarymoments
January 27, 2018
Oh yay thats brilliant, I am so pleased for you. I would have been the same and totally agree with going with your gut. Well done Max I hope he continues xx #TheOrdinaryMoments